1. The Identifying Stage:
   1. The Subconscious Trap: Why Judgment Triggers System Overload
   2. Self-Worth: Your Core Asset
2. Separating Value from Outcome
   1. Output is Not Identity.
   2. Creating Space Before Reaction
3. Shifting Your Focus
4. Criticism vs. Feedback
   1. Vulnerability as a Power Source
5. The Makia Perspective
   1. My Storytelling
6. Realising it was a vulnerability and a strength

Has a wave of anxiety every washed over you when your feelings get judged?

Does an automatic overthinking life come in to place and you don’t know why?

That is because something within us no matter how big or small, trapped away in our subconscious, that we are unaware of. And most of the time it means a lot to us than we like to notice. Until that thing in your life happens whether it is a question or a statement, that big or small topic can either sabotage how you live life or you can counteract it and change how you view the trigger.

The different ways we can deal with a vulnerability, will be discussed in this blog post?

The Identifying Stage:

The Subconscious Trap: Why Judgment Triggers System Overload

When external judgment hits a deep vulnerability, your system doesn’t register it as “feedback” it registers it as a breach, something that goes against us, an attack. Therefore, our brains need to keep us safe per fight or flight mode. The overthinking is the panic response your mind attempting to execute gaining back control.

You are not overthinking because you are weak. You are overthinking because the energy of what was said or felt does not match the way you already feel within. This disconnection creates a massive spike in energy and leaves us thinking: What did they mean? What did I do wrong? How do I fix it?

This is your brain trying to understand itself. The work is not to stop the trigger.

Self-Worth: Your Core Asset

If someone criticises a simple fact, you ignore it. If you feel they criticise your soul, your work, your voice, your vulnerability, you shut down. This is the indicator.

The thing you feel most vulnerable about is your Asset.

For the creator, this asset is often the act of creation itself, which becomes fused with self-worth. You believe:

That when people see your work that came from a place of feeling safe and they judge what has been created. They are judging who you are as a person.

This correlation is the fatal flaw in the Creator’s Operating System. You have given external feedback something you cannot control. A lot of power over your internal stability, the energy you must control. Locating this correlation is the first step in fixing the vulnerability.

Separating Value from Outcome

The only way to detach from your vulnerability, is to look at the trigger and recognising the self as differing entities.

Output is Not Identity.

This must move from a cliché to a non-negotiable boundary. That your energy cant be dictated by someone else’s external validation on a piece that was created with emotions and vulnerability

When the criticism lands, your thoughts go from (“Did they like it?”) to the internal action (“Did I show up with integrity?”). The integrity of the process is the only thing you own; the result belongs to the market. Stop giving the market power over your foundational energy.

Creating Space Before Reaction

Emotional energy dissipates after a few minutes to a couple of hours. When the attack on our nervous systems occur we have high energy, hyper sensitive and emotional.

Add in a non-negotiable 24-Hour Rule before you allow yourself to respond to or internalize the judgment.

1. Acknowledge: “I hear the what they are saying.”
2. Quarantine: Immediately label the criticism as “review later.”
3. Re-Focus: Find yourself another task to do, this moves the energy over to something physical instead of trapped in your body.

This space prevents the high energy from turning your body into complete meltdown and chaos.

Shifting Your Focus

The final phase is a mindset shift that transforms vulnerability from a weakness into a strength.

Criticism vs. Feedback

All external validation is not created equal. Your brain must be taught to tell the difference.

• Criticism (Low Frequency): Non-specific, personal, focused on what shouldn’t have been done. Discard. It is noise.
• Feedback (High Frequency): Specific, actionable, focused on what could be done next. Process. It is fuel.

Vulnerability as a Power Source

The moment you feel the anxiety, do not interpret it as a sign to retreat. Interpret it as a resonance reading.

Vulnerability is proof that you are operating at a higher frequency. You have successfully published a truth that carries high emotional energy. The anxiety is the natural reaction of that being seen by the world

The Makia Perspective

Lately for me, my life has been growing rapidly in lots of different directions, different areas that I had been hoping would change. I just didn’t expect it to be all at the same time. Due to this rapid growth, I have noticed vulnerabilities and little insecurities in my mind that I thought did not exist.

My Storytelling

This to me is my strength and I am proud of that. My face lights up and you can feel the energy I emit, whenever I speak about how Makia was established or about how my emotions get used in writing.

But that was always for me….

Makia was always my corner of the internet and my safe space to be me and not have a mask up or pretend to be someone I’m not. That is the reason behind Makia to help people, let them have a safe space.

Realising it was a vulnerability and a strength

The wave of anxiety

The questions of do I want this person in my life if they obviously do not like me

But I paused…. waited…. analysed my feelings. I realised that not only was my writing apart of who I am but internalised the work as if it was apart of me. It took me a while to realise that the person didn’t know how I feel about it. That it was an attack on my being. I needed to disconnect them.

Makia is a strength not a burden on my self identity because I am too vulnerable and I do not like to express feelings. I have a place, where I can just be “me” whether thats emotional, philosophical anything that floats my boat because it is mine. Always will be my creation.

And that’s powerful.

Remember, it all starts with self love

-M