Lately, my life has made me feel alive. A light has been ignited within, which was dimmed for a long time. After my TBI life was hard to comprehend, was i meant to feel the way I did because I never felt like everyone else.

Everything started aligning when I began honouring myself, the same way we at Makia champion the voices of those who have long felt unheard

Now I realise that its okay not not be like everyone else, in fact it is the best thing to be- different than everyone else. Recently, because I have began to like who I am again my life feels a whole lot better. Everything seems to be going in the right direction

Have you ever noticed how life seems to fall into place when you finally treat yourself with compassion?

What Self-Love Really Means

Self love, goes beyond what we may think. Bubble baths, treating yourself to clothes or doing thing that make you feel good. While these all fall under the umbrella term of doing something that makes you feel the most you. This is called self-care, when you provide for your physical, mental, psychological and spiritual wellbeing.

Under self love, we have:

• Self-worth  The realization of one’s inherent value, regardless of achievements or qualities.
• Self-esteem  Being content and comfortable with who you are and where you are in life.
• Self-care Taking action to support your physical, mental, psychological, and spiritual growth and well-being.
• Self-awareness An active curiosity and understanding of your own needs, feelings, and emotions.
• Self-compassion Treating yourself with the same kindness and empathy you would a friend, especially when facing challenges or making mistakes.
• Prioritising healthy boundaries  Prioritising your needs and not sacrificing your well-being to please other

The meaning of self love is based on personal preference and perspective. It involves an intentional choice to show up for yourself.

Signs Life Aligns When You Love Yourself

1. Opportunities show up naturally instead of forced

When we decide to prioritise our thoughts and feelings, life begins to shift to our new perspective. We notice that whatever is meant for us will be, and the things that are meant for us will come into our lives.

2. Relationships (personal and professional) feel more supportive and balanced.

When we begin to put ourselves first we naturally pull people that align with us into our energy. We begin to feel understood by the relationships we attract that when we once were not so self loving we attracted people that did not align with visions and views.

Lately, the relationships in my life have been balanced and they understand me.

3. Your energy attracts the right people and situations.

When we are self loving, we emit positive presence into the world that people or situations cant help but come into your life. Serving you with what aligns the most with you in this chapter of life.

The people that i have met in this chapter of my life are exactly the kind of people I need.

4. Your intuition is sharper, you trust yourself.

As you begin to love the person you are, you begin to understand why you make certain decisions in your life and if any other options come your way you can make better decisions.

When I started to open up to more opportunities, I knew exactly what I wanted and where I was going in life.

The Makia Perspective

This part of the blog post is a perspective from our founder Morgan Thain Miller on how she views self love.

I have been on a self love and acceptance journey for many years now, and just recently I have felt aligned to the person I am becoming. I began a counselling course, meeting like minded people like myself and for someone who never felt understood this was amazing. Since the start of that course I have realised that I did not know who I was, I now have strong boundaries.

Now I take pride in everything that happens in my life, i know it happens for a reason. Makia is beginning to be seen and grow into something beautiful for the misunderstood and unheard to feel accepted.

Hence, proving that when you begin to love yourself you attract opportunities and people that support you and make you a better person.

Practical Steps for Readers

So, if you have read this far. You must be feeling lost and maybe like you have tried self love but it doesn’t seem to be working

If so, these are some challenges to try:

Set one boundary this week and see how you feel- Things that make you uncomfortable.

Celebrate one personal win, no matter how small- Beginning to celebrate ourselves for just being who we are is a big step of self love. So choose one thing that has happened this week or this month and just sit in the emotions of it. how did it make you feel?

Take the risk and say something that is aligned with your growth- your voice matters

Reflection / Conclusion

Life has a way of realigning itself when you finally show up for yourself. When you begin to truly love who you are, the people you attract, the opportunities that arise, and the choices you make all start to feel natural and effortless. Self-love isn’t about perfection or doing everything right it’s about understanding, accepting, and prioritizing yourself.

By cultivating self-worth, self-awareness, and compassion, you set the stage for a life that feels aligned with your truest values. Boundaries become your guide, intuition becomes your compass, and the energy you radiate draws the right people and experiences into your orbit.

So start small: honor yourself, celebrate your wins, and take risks that align with your growth. Life doesn’t have to feel like a constant struggle when you love yourself, everything else begins to follow.

Ask yourself: What could your life look like if you chose yourself, and how could your voice finally be heard? At Makia, we know that when you honour yourself, you inspire others to do the same.

Remember, it all starts with self love

-M