Lately, I have been feeling more in my power than I ever have. The things I have felt inside is now coming to the surface because I have met my emotional mirrors.

What is an emotional mirror.

An emotional mirror is the idea that our experiences, especially those involving emotional reactions, reflect back to us aspects of ourselves that we may not be consciously aware of or are working to change. These people come in to your life to reflect your emotions onto you.

This can be your insecurities, self love, confidence, self doubt or anything that you may feel in your mind. This mirror will bring it to the surface.

How my life changed when I met my mirror.

I have a few mirrors in my life they reflect back to me what I need to see. The things that are deep in my subconscious mind that I may not appreciate.

The first mirror is my best friend who I have walked through life with. From the time we were depressed, to now thriving on spirituality and being ourselves. We have grown together in ways that people don’t know and that is the most powerful thing that we have together. A connection that no one will ever break.

I am also her mirror of what she feels, making our connection better. She shows me my flaws and I show her what she needs to improve. We celebrate the things that we love about each other, appreciating every moment together. We don’t see each other often anymore as we both needed to go and find who we were.

And that’s okay, it’s okay to feel a pull towards a new place or taking a career path that is different from your best friend. The connection is still the strongest that it can be and that to me is magical. It shows that no matter what she will always be my person who I can turn to in times of need.

Second mirror

The next person I met during my journey of finding myself and my career. As they say people come into your life when you least expect it.

This was a time where I had done all of the inner work on myself. My nervous system was healed or “healing” and I felt more like myself than I ever have before. This person made me see and appreciate the things about myself that I pushed down.

I was always a more masculine person being brought up as a tomboy and never fully embracing feminine beauty. Even now I don’t know how to hair or makeup but I am getting better. Since meeting this person I have been able to feel like it is okay to let my guard down and feel soft. This wasn’t always the case growing up I had an absent father and my mother had undiagnosed ADHD that wasn’t found until she was in her 40’s. So I always felt like I had to be the one to step up, to be the one person my sisters can turn to. I felt like a protector of my family.

The next thing, is how deeply I feel things. So I am an empath and I value other people’s perspectives to fully understand the world. Maybe that comes with being very spiritual and having found myself. But everything around me I feel is energy a pull that I am exactly where I am meant to be. Embracing myself and building Makia as I go along. We have beautiful deep conversations all about my perspective on things and then I get to add to my general knowledge of how the world works and see into their mind.

The third thing is a question about who I am. This was confusing for me as I felt like maybe I had everything sorted out. I was called “secure” and “magnetic” I thought I had it all worked out in life. Then I questioned why I do not find anyone physically attractive or sexually attractive. The physical comes and goes but it’s like who I find attractive I would never pursue anything more.

Emotional connection is my thing. Having someone who is on your wavelength and under stands you all and whole. Even your shadows. I think that is the most beautiful thing you can have in life.

There is this beautiful quote that I love and has been playing in my mind lately. It’s from Captain Correlli’s mandolin:

“Love is a temporary madness, it erupts like volcanoes and then subsides. And when it subsides you have to make a decision. You have to work out whether your roots have so entwined together that it is inconceivable that you should ever part.

Because this is what love is.

Love is not breathlessness, it is not excitement, it is not the promulgation of promises of eternal passion.That is just being in love, which any fool can do.

Love itself is what is left over when being in love has burned away, and this is both an art and a fortunate accident.

Those that truly love have roots that grow towards each other underground, and when all the pretty blossoms have fallen from their branches, they find that they are one tree and not two.”

Conclusion

To conclude, I am very grateful that these people have come into my life they make me feel like I am appreciating the sides of myself that I was once scared to look at, terrified it would be something that I wasn’t proud of. Little did I know it is now the things I love most about myself: being emotionally mature, seeing the world from a different perspective, writing and communication, relationships and spirituality. All of these things make me who I am.

I am Makia and I am still figuring stuff out.

Remember, it all starts with self love

-M